Saturday, February 12, 2011

To Know or Not to Know...

I am 10 weeks pregnant! I am ready to be 14 weeks pregnant, ha! I hear that the sickness starts to go away after the 1st trimester for most. I truly hope this is the case. The hardest part for me is the headaches. If it turns into a migraine, I'm screwed. Tylenol just doesn't cut it. I can deal with the nausea, but a bad migraine for me is killer. Other than that, things are great. My next appointment is March 8th. It's like waiting for a vacation. The weeks drag on because I am just so excited for each appointment. I want to know whats going on and how my baby is doing. The one after that will be even harder because I will find out the sex! Then I can start buying stuff.

So when my husband and I decided to start trying to get pregnant, we decided to do a pre-pregnancy checkup. We actually had two, because about a year or so ago we were going to start trying but I changed jobs, so we held off until we were settled. The first doctor we saw we ended up not liking quite as much as we would have liked. He was big on fertility and genetics, and was not very personable. I felt like the person that delivered my baby needed to be personable. That was important to me. Anyways, he felt that because of my disability, we should see a genetics specialist. Now, there is a part of me that would like to know whether or not my baby could possibly have arthrogryposis or any other disability. Really though, would that change anything? I'm not going to decide against having a baby just because there is a chance of that. Not knowing is better for me. Really it was the only option.  My husband and I both agreed on this. What difference would knowing make? None. My current doctor, who I love, mentioned genetics as well. We told her we were not interested. We also turned down the Chorionic Villus Sampling. Our doctor was very supportive of our decision.

So the hubby and I are just as excited as ever for this pregnancy. I am looking forward to maternity pants! It will be nice to have an excuse to wear pants that stretch.

2 comments:

  1. I think your decision of not knowing is a good one,Jess :-) I. Agree with what you said....its not like it would matter right? You know that right after P was born we discovered he had several congenital birth defects...one of the most common questions was "did you not test for it?" "Was it not seen on ultrasound??" No,and No....first we had no reason to test for anything and all of our ultrasounds were supposedly normal...I look back and honestly Thank God for that bc the feelings that were immediately thrown onto me WITH him in my arms ( fear,worry,sadness,anger,fear of the unknown,etc) can you imagine how much happiness we would have been robbed of during our pregnancy if we would have known ahead of time? There was NOTHING that could have been done had we known....it would only have caused me to stress,worry,fear,be sad,etc...before I ever had him in my arms....I am thankful for not knowing now ;-) Love you...

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  2. Thank you so much for that comment Kace, that is exactly what I am talking about! It would only cause worry and stress if something was going on. Thanks girl!!

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